How to turn your setbacks into comebacks
In the game of life, one confronts win or lose situations where sometimes you rise above the obstacles and make it and at times you fall flat to the stone floor of failure. Setbacks are the equally important part of your life as your achievements are. They hold the equally important role in defining your long-term success if you tend to extract the great essence of learning out of those failures and turning your setbacks into comebacks. Your setbacks are the guideposts to set your motion in the right direction. Winston Churchill says “Success is a journey from failure to failure without the loss of enthusiasm.”
Below are the most productive and the result-oriented strategies to optimize learning from your failures and turning your setbacks into comebacks:
1-Keep the half-filled glass Approach
Nothing is as fatal to your goals as simply giving up. Remember perfection is the enemy of progress. Don’t chase for 100% results as 60% is equally good as 100%. Adopt a positive thinking approach even if you ended up just setting a goal and not even lifted a single step towards it. Since you still come from a category of 33% people who at least have a dream, desire or goal. Be thankful and use the power of intuition to at least have a desire which is a direction to move forward to whenever the flesh and spirit come in shape.
2-Run a diagnostic mode
Eliminate your hindsight biases and learn to take responsibility for your failures as this is the first step to turning them into comebacks. Run a memory scan and use your diagnostic tool to identify the roadblocks and bottlenecks that deterred you from making a move or reaching your goals. List down the shortfalls in terms of resources, knowledge and skill, support or any other means you went devoid of. Don’t act superficially. Drill down to the underlying causes in order to have a secure and well-planned comeback.
3-Turn plans into the action plan
Acceding the list of root causes to your past failures, set action plans as your short-term goals. Value them with equivalent significance as to your main goal. Make no excuse, cut no corners and avoid dilly dallies. Discipline is unavoidable key to accomplishment. If you focus your past setbacks, you would notice that a good number of your shortfalls are the numerous forms of pretexts where you simply lacked a disciplined approach. A mistake is once done, twice is foolery. A lack of serious and die-hard approach to your minor action plans is the primal area of lapses where one breaks apart.
4-Develop the spice of Variety
A goal is dully defined is a goal destined to doom. One of the major reasons for failing to attain a goal is that the goal has no appetizing lure or simply originating out of an unripe desire. True Dreams do not evoke slumbers but in fact, they are a wakeup call or an alarm or a signal to keep the light on. If your goal does not offer such temptation, it lacks the spice. Spruce it up and make it as compellingly attractive as possible. Garnish it with affirmations, design it with the visual of gains and relish even daydreaming about it (Daydreaming is not good though).
5-Adopt a collaborative monitoring approach
Your mind is the conspirator. It sticks its attention to the short-term appeals unless your subconscious mind counters its intrigues. In order to keep your mind on track, develop a measuring stick approach. Make measurement as frequent as your adhesion to the interest is. If you find the bonding in low strength, monitor frequent and celebrate even a little change until your bigger gains become more outweighing than minor accomplishments. Count the chickens as the eggs start hatching but don’t take your eyes off the target quantity of chickens.
Where the strength of adhesion to a goal is comparatively lower, one another tool is to have an accountability partner. But this time, he is to be your active partner by being apprised of the reasons to your setbacks and your counter plans to turn your setbacks into comebacks. His role is to be well defined so as to be a buzzer or alarm that goes off once you go off track to your goals. He or she should be close enough to enjoy the similar post achievement entitlements and privileges. This approach would make you both sail in the boat leading to the destination of mutual interest and benefits.
In furtherance to the aforementioned strategies, one must remain to beware to the most lethal predicaments to goal getting and setbacks which are Overthinking and Procrastination. They are the unstoppable bugs to the process. You can’t stay away but steer clear of them. You have to be wise and alert to these malware attacks. Don’t let overthinking kills your dreams the way it killed last year. Remember that faith moves mountains and only the risk takers are rewarded. Fear generates procrastination which is another spyware and it silently corrupts the system by either making the process complex or engages the energy in trivial and unfruitful tasks. Procrastination saps the vigor and drains you out from turning your setbacks into comebacks. Ultimately you start losing momentum and drifting away from the defined course.